Steve Schappell-My Blog

Sunday, May 8, 2011

It starts with a Profile....

Online dating, fun, fun.  My next several posts will explore the world of online dating.  I have many stories to tell and some observations from both sides (Some women have told me their side of this too).

How to start?  Well, it all starts with profile and I wanted to include mine.  I wrote it myself and to date have not read another guys profile.  I am currently on two sites and have the same profile for both and same photos too.  On both sites, you have an alias, a headline and other information (age, height, etc) and will talk about that later.

I've been told by some that my profile is really good.  Others say it's too wordy.  At the very least, I wanted it to stand out and make and impression.  What do you think?  I am interested in your thoughts.

About Me:
I am a hard working and dedicated person who likes to sample what life has to offer. I am a single dad with two children ages 15 and 11, who will always be forefront in my life. With a son in high school and a daughter soon to start middle school, I understand why my parents felt the way they did when I was a teenager—nervous, but proud.
I have an amicable relationship with their mom and have been divorced for 2 years. We share custody 50/50 and I have my kids every other week during the school year and longer weekends in the summer. They both play soccer and my son plays lacrosse as well. I am the manager for my daughter's soccer team, keeping me busy in the spring and fall.

My faith guides and defines me. I may be one of the last “nice guys” left and it’s both a blessing and a curse. I would describe myself at stable in my career and goal oriented. (I am a Branch Manager for a local Credit Union) I enjoy making people laugh…am intelligent and carry on meaningful conversations. I believe that my blue eyes will eventually find a way into your heart. I can be an intense person (in a good way) but also relaxed.

I care about other people’s feelings and enjoy time with my friends. They help keep me in check and are there for me. When I’m with someone special, I like being spontaneous, adventurous, romantic, sensual and playful. I am looking for someone who has similar qualities and desires someone who they can connect with. I feel there has to be a mutual physical attraction for there to be good chemistry between two people. I have a lot to give for the right person. I believe in standing up for what I believe and not being walked on. I don’t run from adversity, but let it help shape me. I am honest and trustworthy and would expect my match to have the same qualities. That is very important to me.

In my spare time I enjoy spending time with my kids, bike riding, hiking, hanging out with friends, listening to local bands and live music, working on projects around the house, amusement parks, painting (the interior kind, not art work), reading a good book or watching a good movie. Oh and dancing. I love to dance the night away.

If you want to know more, send me a message. I enjoy messaging for a little while, but if I’m interested, would like to talk on the phone and see if there is an agreement to meet.

What I am looking for:
I want to meet someone who shares the same values I have in faith, family and friendship. Someone who will introduce me to new things, adore (or put up with) my wacky moods and keep me in line. I am looking for a woman who is confident, intelligent, funny, beautiful, patient, responsible and loyal--someone who will support me, yet still tell me if I am wrong, and will want me to do the same for her.
A woman whom I can get lost in conversation with, but just as easily share one of those moments of comfortable silence in each others arms. I prefer someone who is thin, athletic or average and who makes an impression on me.

       First Date
Ideal first date:
Doesn’t exist….it’s the Unicorn. Surprise me. Make it a collaborative effort. Skydiving anyone? Seriously, I can plan the night out or let you take control. If there is a connection, the day (or night) will take care of itself. I am open to most anything from traditional dinner and a movie, to hiking followed by a hockey game. If it ends with not wanting to say goodbye, that’s a good thing.


  1. This appears to be a POF profile. It is a little wordy for a guy's profile, but it is who you are and you do a much better job of explaining that than most men out there. I think your profile does a good job of showing off your personality.

  2. Way more wordy than most men's profiles, but in a way, that is a good thing. Like Lisa said, it does a good job of demonstrating your personality. It has all the energy you do!

    From a woman's perspective, the things that would jump out at me are how articulate you are, how diverse your interests are, and the fact that you are very people-oriented.

    What would worry me is whether or not you'd have time for a relationship, because you sound so busy. I might also hesitate to contact you because I am a little unsure of myself and what you are looking for sounds like perfection. When I tried online dating, I got a few rejections, which whittled away at my normal self-confidence, so if I had come across your profile, I would've been afraid to take a chance and message you.

  3. Steve, I agree with Denise about the time thing. I thought the same thing when reading it. The only reason I did not comment is because I see you do make time for things and know you would. However, someone who does not know you may see you as too busy for her.

    I also agree with the high expectation comment. There is nothing wrong with have high expectations, but you have to make it more obvious that you are willing to accept imperfections. After all, we all have them. :)